The Art of Reading Minds: Understand Others to Get What You What by Henrik Fexeus

BATB score: 6/10 🫣

good stuff but needles in a haystack

Best as: why your pupil dilates and why you look down when you flirt with someone you like; and how to catch a lie by only observing eye movement > doubles as a cool party trick, two truth and one lie winner forever

Best for: how to catch your boyfriend cheating with just his eye movement > remembering image looks up, remembering sound looks sideways, remembering feelings looks down

Best to: the most important business takeaway from this book “We speak at the same pace as we think and understand things. If you speak in the same tempo as the person you are talking to, your thoughts are expressed at the same pace he or she is using to think.”

BATB lingering thought: the basic rule of good rapport is to adapt to how the other person prefers to communicate: body language (mirror), pitch, tempo, breathing, and trance words

Best quotes: “No matter how skilled you are, nobody wants an expert who is impossible to talk to.”

“We talk about ourselves, to ourselves, with ourselves, and seldom notice anything anybody else is doing.”

Answer: “I feel the same way you do.” OR “I hear you.” OR “I see what you mean.” based on whether the person you are communicating with communicates with sensory, auditory, or visionary cues