What My Bone Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo

BATB score: 10/10 ❤️‍🩹

wow just wow. 👏👏👏

Best to: a very important read for our generation about complex-PTSD from our upbringings, to adulthood dark clouds, to cutting ties (the frown upon / non-asian way) to heal, to finding numerous alternative help, and just surviving day by day 🥹

Best for: anyone who resonates with this statement “the stress of not meeting their elders’ expectations in a culture where they have to please their elders is real”

Best as: “the three P’s: we think our sadness is personal, pervasive, and permanent. Personal, in that we have caused all the problems we face. Pervasive, in that our entire life is defined by our failings. And permanent, in that the sadness will last forever.”

BATB lingering thought: the group that is most at risk of depression are the YAVIS - Young, Attractive, Verbal, Intelligent, and Successful 😱

Best quotes: “When the sky falls, use it as a blanket.”

“It’s okay to have some things you never get over.”

“There were days when the only hope I could see was that I needn’t worry about the pain lasting too long. At least I was going to die soon.”

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.”

“The Chinese word for endurance is simply the word knife on top of the word heart. You walk around with a knife in your heart. You do it with stoicism. This is the apex of being.”

“PTSD is only a mental illness in times of peace. The whole point of PTSD is to prepare you for bring on the verge of death at any moment.”