The Courage To Be Disliked: A Single book Can Change Your Life by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

BATB score: 4.5/10 ⭕️

and that’s why monks have no friends (and lives in a forest) 🌳🙏

Best to: the way the book is written is conversational, he said, he said, then he said, so it’s like you’re eavesdropping to a 1-1 discussion without the audience in mind; it’s all over the place, where’s the meat, what’s the point, where am I?

BATB lingering thought: I hate a panel discussion whether that’s 1-1 or worst yet 1-3, listening in to a conversation is not how humans best intake information; keynotes, tedtalks, being spoken to, for the win

Best as: at first you will find the youth annoying - asking unsubstantial questions, then you will find the philosopher annoying - answering in unconstructive circles

Best for: you actually practice patience and kindness while tolerating to finish this book

Best to: everything important are in the quotes below

Best quotes: “At some stage in your life, you chose “being unhappy.” It is not because you were born into unhappy circumstances or ended up in an unhappy situation. It’s that you judged “being unhappy” to be good for you. […] One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.”

“If you are not living your life for yourself, then who is going to live it for you? You are living only your own life. When it comes to who you are living it for, of course it’s you. And then, if you are not living your life for yourself, who could there be to live it instead of you?”

“An adult, who has chosen an unfree way to live, on seeing a young person living freely here and now in this moment, criticizes the youth as being hedonistic. Of course, this is a life-lie that comes out so that the adult can accept his own unfree life. An adult who has chosen real freedom himself will not make such comments and will instead cheer on the will to be free.”

“Let’s dance in earnest the moments of the here and now, and live in earnest. Do not look at the past, and do not look at the future. One lives each complete moment like a dance. There is no need to compete with anyone, and one has no use for destinations. As long as you are dancing, you will get somewhere.”